Being a mom is…

Being a mom is so many things that are often hard to remember or to define. On the long days, we find ourselves counting down the minutes to nap time or bed time, trying to determine how long we can feasibly leave the kids in their room once they’ve woken up from naps, cherishing the moments together of coloring or playing with puzzles or relishing in being able to read a book just once before the next book.

Being a mom is also…..

  • Making sure Cookie Monster is safe in the carseat at least 20 times a day and rescuing him when he’s stuck in there…

cookie carseat

  • Letting the dogs and the kids get to know each other…

boys playing

  • Remembering¬†that having all your buttons dumped out into your yarn bin and on the floor is less of a catastrophe than it may seem like in the moment…

buttons everywhere

  • Letting Dr. 2-year-old make sure you have plenty of kleenex when you’re feeling sick.

dr mae

  • Letting your 2-year-old put a hat on her 6 month old little brother just because, and then rescuing him from a hat over his face…

dressing up patrick

  • Taking time to find pins to get a 2T skirt to fit on Elmo when he’s really small enough to fit into newborn clothes, all before breakfast with a hungry baby and the discomfort of over full mammaries because the baby slept all night…

Elmo skirt

  • Teaching your dogs to listen to your 2 year old by letting her feed them, which involves lots of throwing kibble around, her yelling at dogs to stay away from the other one’s food, and often, stepping in to referee because the dogs don’t know to listen the child yet…

feed the dogs

  • Being your baby’s happy place…

happy boy

  • Having a general idea of where things should be in the house, and yet inexplicably knowing where to find lost items…

jelly in the cupboard

  • Finding children in various stages of dress or undress while attending to other tasks and suddenly realizing that your toddler is no baby anymore as she gets better and better at dressing…

ready to go bye bye

  • Thinking “It’s much too quiet, I better check what’s going on…”

stickers

  • Having a permanent audience for nearly every task…

waiting for lunch

  • Cherishing the moments your baby is small enough to nap in your lap…

94

  • …and recreating it with your next baby too…

101

  • Stumbling across matching pajamas and putting your little boy in pink, thereby confusing everyone on the planet who now think you have two little girls instead of one of each…

155

  • Letting big sister make sure her brother isn’t lonely in his bouncer…

158

  • A safe place to take a nap when he is so, so, so tired…

Tired patrick

  • Knowing you set an example every time you do something in front of your kids, so you try to make the best example you can, and then allow a bit of freedom for your kids to explore your hobbies…

Mae knitting

  • Never being able to take an in focus picture…

Parenthood is the single greatest, yet most challenging, blessing of one’s life and it can never be summarized properly because it is so complex, so different every day, so different for every family.

These are the moments I am so glad I have captured because it reminds me that what I do staying home is significant, it matters. I can get lost in the mundane, the repetitive tasks, the lack of “objectives fulfilled” and forget that what I do matters.

I am thankful that I have pictures and people to remind me – like when I come home from a night out with friends and find that my little girl woke up with terrible gas pains and called for me through her tears. She knows that mama is the source of comfort when her world isn’t right. Being a mom is being the world to your little people, knowing how to comfort them best, knowing when to grant the next step of freedom, learning when to step in and when to stay out, guiding, teaching, directing. There is no manual, no set of guidelines on the internet that works for every child.

This is why we need a community of other moms to help us along, to commiserate, to share joys, to have someone who understands, to pass along tips to make life just a little easier. I am so grateful to the mom friends I am making and the richness they bring to my life.

 

What is being a mom to you?

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One thought on “Being a mom is…

  1. Mom says:

    Now — being a mom is watching my daughters as mothers. It is offering advice (hopefully wanted) and yet, letting them have the freedom to choose what works best for them. It is being there in those moments of frustration and hearing them vent…trying to remember that I didn’t do everything right….and in that – thankful that they do come to me. Motherhood — such a wonderful circle — such an opportunity for a beautiful legacy. It is beautiful when we remember that we have done the best we know how.

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